Finding the right guide is so important

With more than 10 years of experience, I can help you move from broken to hopeful, from stuck to empowered, and from lonely to connected.

Do you feel blocked from accessing your deepest aliveness due to personal and/or cultural trauma?

Some signs this work may be for you:

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You are listless, sad, or depressed and have tried for years to get traction but can’t

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You’re successful in lots of areas in your life but you still feel like something is missing and you yearn to connect with the magic of life

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Working as an activist or in a non-profit space is burning you out and you need to figure out how to stay resourced and engaged

Getting started is simple


Step one

Schedule a video consultation

It’s free! What have you got to lose? I’ll get back to you in 1 business day.


Step two

Create a custom plan together

We’ll discuss which practices and processes will best serve you.


Step Three

Integrate the work

The success of this work is measured by how loving, present, and kind you are — and we get there with ongoing integration practices.

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Let me be your guide

Access your aliveness, creativity, and agency

1:1 Coaching & Guiding

We all need help sometimes. And we all yearn to be seen, heard, and understood. Working together we empower you to make the positive changes in your life that you’re striving for. I often focus on what IS working and help you amplify that.

$250 per 50-minute session or $2000 per day. 10% discount for paying for 6+ sessions in advance.

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Let’s get you & your partner back to connection & love

Couples Coaching & Guiding

I help partners practice good communication, access vulnerability, and truly hear each other. Believing that couples are in each other’s care, I also honor each person’s individuality. Ultimately, each couple must work as a team to get both partners' needs met. This creates a felt experience of love that is patient, caring, and nourishing.

Rate: $350 per 75-minute session or $2000 per day. 10% discount for paying for 6+ sessions in advance.

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Weaving together ceremony, play, nature, and embodiment for your group or Family

Group Rituals & Experiences

I work directly with pre-existing groups to create unforgettable experiences. It’s an honor to be invited into your group and facilitate deep processes.

Rate: $2000-$4000 per day, depending on scope, number of people, and location.

Some groups I work with include:

  • Drinking and strippers are out. Intentionality and maturity are in. Be witnessed and supported by the men in your life as you consciously step into the next phase of your life.

  • I love supporting men’s groups. The existing container allows the men to really go deep and have powerful experiences that deepen the sense of brotherhood and connection.

  • It takes a brave family who consciously chooses to address the dysfunction and distance between adults. The results are a greater sense of love, understanding and the healing of generations of hurt so it does not get passed down to your descendants.

  • Let’s craft an exciting vision for your organization and get the team members excited about your mission.

  • I work on Zoom or in person in the Sierra foothills. I travel to the Bay Area once a season to work in person with clients there. We can also discuss travel to other locations.

  • Yes, I like to make this work accessible to anyone who needs it. We can discuss your financial situation and find a fee that feels sustainable.

  • I ask for 48 hours notice if you can’t make a session. If it’s less than 48 hours I will try to find another time to meet you that week. If we can’t find that time I do charge my full fee for the missed session. But I’m not inflexible and I understand kids get sick and circumstances change; when you have a late cancellation or miss a session we always have a discussion before I charge.

  • Legally for me to offer this work in creative and outside-the-box ways it’s necessary for me to act as a coach and not a therapist. Being a coach also means I can work with clients in any state or country - as a therapist, I’m only allowed to work with residents of California.

  • Only in locales that permit it.

FAQs

It is with deep reverence and appreciation that I acknowledge my teachers and mentors on this path. I wouldn’t be where I am today without their wisdom and encouragement.

My thinking and practice have also been influenced by writers, poets, philosophers, and revolutionaries. A partial list, in no particular order, include:

Acknowledgments

Kylea Taylor

Stephen Harrod Buhner

Adrienne Maree Brown

Robin Wall Kimmerer

Malidoma Patrice Somé

Michael Meade

Leonard Cohen

Joanna Macy

Starhawk

Bell Hooks

Sylvia Linsteadt

Gabor Maté

Sasha Shulgin

Anuttara Lakshmin Nath

Bayo Akomolafe

Chögyam Trungpa

…and so many more

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    “Alexander has been an invaluable guide in our journey, offering deep empathy and unwavering support.

    His innovative treatment strategies have helped us navigate challenges in ways we never imagined, fostering growth and understanding in our relationship. With his exceptional experience, he creates a safe and constructive space for meaningful communication and healing. We are incredibly grateful for his insight and expertise.” 

    -J & V

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    "After the death of our 19 year old son we feared we would be disconnected and lost in grief forever.

    Alexander helped us feel seen and safe to share the darkest parts of our broken selves and heal together."

    -Sean & Jessica

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    "Before working with Alexander, I spent years making minimal progress.

    From our first session he knew when to listen, when to support, and when to push back. My life has improved immeasurably through our work together, and I recommend him without reservation."

    -Jens

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    "We were stuck in the same old patterns that kept hurting us both until our sessions with Alexander showed us a better way.

    Alexander helped us dig up those buried wounds we'd been carrying around and finally start healing them together. Now we've built new ways of being together that actually work, and our relationship feels fresh and real again."

    -L&R

  • "I can genuinely say that the work I've done with Alex has been the most important work of my life.

    There is no one I'd recommend more highly as a coach or guide than Alex, in fact I've already done so many times! Not only is Alex experienced, compassionate and wise, but he has always embodied integrity, creativity and a strong intuition in our work together.”

    -Tyler M.

  • "After almost four years our family is back together. Alex played an important role in our healing and I am so grateful.”

    -ST

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    "Working with Alexander has been so helpful.

    Both individually and in groups, I feel able to explore transformative experiences, but (crucially!) I always feel safe. I feel less depressed than I used to, and I know my work with Alexander has been a big part of that."

    -Dan

  • "My experience in working with Alexander has been one of feeling safe, seen, and understood.

    Alexander creates a container in which I can surrender fully to the experience. He guides me in ways in which I have found profound - both inwardly and outwardly.”

    -Ryan

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    "I have been to a number of retreats now. Yours are by far the best. Seriously."

    -Stefan

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    "Sitting in a Men’s Group with Alexander Warnow was an incredibly enriching experience.

    Alexander brings a genuine warmth and wisdom that makes every conversation feel deeply personal and meaningful, creating a space where vulnerability, authenticity, and growth are welcomed. His presence as a facilitator helped ground the group and fostered a sense of community and connection that I still carry with me today, and I’m sure I will continue to do so, long after our time together."

    -Seth

  • "Alex was exquisitely attuned to my experience throughout the process.

    He provided just the right balance between allowing the experience to unfold on its own and intervening when I needed his personal support and guidance. His detailed notes/observations of the experience have been a great resource to support deeper reflection since our work together.”

    -Jon